eli simpson: September 2012

Hi everyone

well..its that time of year again when the simpson's reflect on what should have been...Melon's 5th birthday...

once again many tears were shed, pancakes eaten and even archie got into the act and played with a couple of angel's which sit on eli...

As pete often says, its a time when we think about what should have been...and he is right...eli's 5th birthday...kinder and off to school next year...christmas with his baby brother and family...so much to look forward too but will never be experienced...

These anniversaries get harder and harder as the time goes by...but the days in between seem to be just living life...

Melon would have been plenty proud of what we have achieved as a family...in fact, the cottage is currently home to another family who are seeking a break from the heartache of hospital life and cancer/leukaemia...

we absolutely know we are doing the right thing and that the cottage means such a lot to these families...we look forward to picking some flowers from his garden today...and we might just even get a birthday cake together...but who knows...we will just go with the flow and do what feels right...

our beautiful brave boy...forever young and always missed.

Love you to the moon and back melon...and you are in our thoughts every single day

happy birthday mate

mum, dad and baby archie
xoxox

Happy 5th birthday melon...xoxox

hi everyone

geez...i know i keep saying it, but its absolutely amazing how quickly time flies...incredible really to think we are fast approaching melon's 5th birthday...28 September...gee...it feels like yesterday when we lost him...where does the time go...

So, we managed to get through Father's Day...and again pete's birthday on 16th September...we did what we could, and spent a bit of time in the garden, both on the day and leading up to them...i know pete takes much solace with his time in melon's garden. Its actually a great time of year for the garden because everything is in in bloom...really pretty.

As always...i think we will just need to see how the day unfolds on melon's birthday...a friday actually...and kind of poetically, we actually have a family in up at the cottage so that will be nice. Keeping to the Simpson family tradition, we will make some pancakes for eli's birthday...and then just 'be'...see where the day takes us. I know many people who have lost a child will celebrate with a birthday, friends and family around. For us however, its an intensely private day where we do our own thing, only really stopping to share with others when we can open our hearts, which usually happens in the afternoon. Such is the stark contrast of how we grieve...we are all so individual and express grief so differently...and thats completely ok. As wamma would say - whatever blows your hair back!

Its also ninny's birthday this month...amazing to think she died so very young at 75 with pancreatic cancer...but so much comfort to know she was there just before melon was...to welcome him with open arms...

anways....the Charity Chooks have been busy busy once again, with an event to raise money for angel flight...we managed $500 which was awesome...so thanks to everyone who came to make it happen...you rock!

The cottage is looking forward to another 2 families visiting over the next couple of weeks. We have again been really lucky to receive some terrific donations...we just cannot thank everyone enough...the response has truly been amazing.

For those interested, im heading to melbs to attend Light the Night for the leukaemia foundation...its hard to believe we were their 'inaugural' gold balloon ambassadors...in 2009 at their first event...it was a truly amazing evening, and one we have tried to attend ever since...so..if you are interested in coming along for a walk - or learning more about the event, please email me at eli-simpson@hotmail.com and i will see if we can catch up on the night...its always such a beautifully reflective event...one we are looking forward to participate in once again...its on the 26th September...at the Alexandra Gardens...but again, let me know if you are interested to ensure we can walk together...

I think thats about it for us at the moment...i will try and get back to you by the end of the month for melon's birthday...

the simpsons are doing well...all very busy...pete with work...and archie with just being archie lol...growing like a weed and just near 17months already! A really typical boy with lots of spunk and very very busy!

anyways...will close for now...

take care everyone
luv and sunshine
the simpsons
xoxoxo